Carin-Lee Masters Clinical Psychologist

Self- criticism: A saboteur of self-growth

November, 11 2014 / 0 comments

Have you ever noticed how often you criticize yourself? For many of us, it’s a kind of knee-jerk reaction. Small self-criticisms accumulate, layer by layer, like sand, until they swallow you whole. This negative self-talk can be destructive to you and your relationships. 

The way to begin to let go of self-criticism is to move in the opposite direction—toward compassion. The goal in this practice is to acknowledge, detach and observe that inner critic- while practicing love and kindness toward yourself…in thought, word and deed.

The practice of compassion is to heal the heart, not having self-compassion  can eventually destroy our inner happiness, health and relationships.

Its important to be kind to yourself and learn how to honor yourself. Forgive yourself. This is the ultimate source of peace, healing and inner happiness. Let go of all the grudges you are holding toward yourself and as you do this, slowly you can do the same toward others as you gently and slowly heal old wounds.

Go gently

Be your own best friend